How Do You Want To Feel?

Every morning is the same. I become aware first of sounds – the hum of water running through the faucet as my husband shaves. My daughter’s bedroom door opening, soft footsteps going down the carpeted stairs. The rustle of a cereal bag in the kitchen. The cat purring beside me.  I lie there, awash in sounds.

And then, my brain catches up and sends a rush of adrenaline through my body. The day has started, and I am immediately gripped with anxiety. So much to do. So much expectation that I probably won’t live up to. It’s all too hard. I can’t face it.

I peel myself out of bed and carry that anxiety with me like a 50-pound weight throughout my day.

Recently I heard a life coach on a podcast suggest that the way we feel is optional. That we can choose how we want to feel and generate that feeling for ourselves.

This has been a life-changing concept for me. Intellectually, anyway. I still wake up anxious every morning.

The difference is that now I can observe my anxiety, pause and ask myself if anxious is how I want to feel. Usually, the answer is no. Then I ask myself how I DO want to feel.

My response today was at ease. I just want to feel at ease. Like things are okay, you know?

Then I chose it. The feeling of at ease

Everything is okay, I told myself. It’s okay to feel at ease. You are safe. It’s okay to get out of bed.

It’s not perfect. But it’s working. Slowly. One day at a time.

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My question for you today is how do you feel, when you sit down to write or at any other time of your day?

Do you want to feel that way?

If not, how do you want to feel?

And how can you generate it for yourself? What new thoughts can you think?

It isn’t magic. It’s a practice, like everything else.

Be kind to yourself.

Come over to the {extra}ordinary stories Facebook group and share your strategies for getting yourself through the difficult feelings in writing and life. We’re all in this together. 

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